Why Women Lose Attraction In Marriage

What are the reasons why women lose attraction in marriage? Find out why this happens, how many men are unaware and what you can do...

Every relationship and individual is unique, and there are many different reasons why a woman may lose attraction in a long-term relationship or a marriage. However, some common factors that may contribute to this situation developing include lack of emotional intimacy, lack of confident communication, and lack of effort in maintaining the relationship.

One of the main reasons why women lose attraction in marriage is due to a lack of emotional intimacy.

Emotional intimacy is the sense of connection and understanding that couples feel towards each other. When this is missing, your wife may feel unimportant, unsupported, and unloved which leads to feeling lonely, isolated and disconnected, which negatively impacts her feeling attraction to you.

Another factor that can contribute to a loss of attraction in marriage is ineffective communication.

Effective communication is vital for any relationship, without it, you may struggle to understand each other's needs and desires, leading to misunderstandings, frustration, and resentment building, slowly eroding the attraction between you.

When you are not able to effectively communicate with each other, you may feel like you are living with a stranger rather than a partner or someone who is on your team.

Giving up the responsibility for leading and maintaining the quality of the relationship also contributes to a loss of attraction in your marriage.

It's easy to become complacent and stop putting effort in to keep your relationship strong, connected and passionate. This can include things like neglecting date nights, not making time for each other, and not showing affection.

If you don't make an effort to maintain your relationship, it often feels like you don't care whether she is around or not, it feels like you are taking her for granted, which also negatively impacts attraction.

Additionally, societal and cultural factors also play a role in the loss of attraction and connection in your relationship.

Women often feel pressure to prioritize their partner's needs and desires over their own, which can lead to feelings of resentment building over time until they explode out as an exclamation of needing space, wanting to separate, not feeling in love with you anymore or even mentioning divorce.

Additionally, gender roles play a part in the dynamics of your relationship, it's common that your wife may feel that you expect her to take on the traditional role of nurturer and caretaker and that you are expected to provide financially. But these societal and cultural expectations can create imbalance and dissatisfaction in the relationship, which also leads to loss of attraction.

Below are some ways to make your wife feel attraction to you again

Show genuine interest and care in her life: Make an effort to understand her thoughts, feelings and interests. Ask her about her day, listen actively to her when she talks, and show her that her concerns are important to you. This will help her feel valued and appreciated, which can rekindle feelings of attraction.
Communicate openly and honestly: Communication is key to any relationship, and when it's lacking, you will both struggle to understand each other's needs and desires. Be open and honest with your wife about your feelings, and make sure to listen to hers as well. This will help build trust and intimacy, which are important for maintaining attraction.
Show affection and physical intimacy: Physical touch is important for maintaining attraction in a relationship. Make sure to show your wife affection through physical touch, such as holding hands, cuddling, and kissing. This will help her feel desired and loved, which can rekindle feelings of attraction.
Make time for each other: With busy schedules and daily life, it can be easy to neglect making time for your partner. Make sure to schedule regular date nights or other activities that you enjoy doing together. This will help you to reconnect and maintain a strong emotional connection, which is important for attraction.
Show appreciation and gratitude: Show your wife how much you appreciate her and all that she does. Tell her that you are grateful for her and that she is important to you. This will help her feel appreciated and valued, which can rekindle feelings of attraction.

It's true that there may be other factors impacting the attraction and connection in your relationship, such as external stressors, internal mental / emotional health issues, physical health issues, external influences such as an emotional connection with another person...if any of these are true then they need to be addressed calmly, directly and lovingly without judgement or fear and with a focus on getting to the truth to be able to move forward.

Also, it's important to understand that attraction is a complex feeling, and it may not be possible to fully recreate it as it was before, but through effort and understanding, you can create a deeper and more meaningful connection.

I have coached many men to turn around marriages from sexless or involving infidelity, to more connected, loving, passionate and exciting sexually than they have previously ever been (even when compared to the beginning in the honeymoon period).

In conclusion, there is no single reason why your wife may have lost attraction to you in your marriage, but there are a number of individual factors that can combine to create a loss of attraction.

A lack of emotional intimacy, lack of confident leadership and communication, and lack of effort in maintaining the relationship are 3 of the most important factors in the loss of attraction.

Yes, societal and cultural factors also play a role, but making an effort to lead the improvement of emotional intimacy, showing confident and effective communication, and making time for connection to happen are key elements of maintaining the attraction in your relationship.

Categories: : attraction, confidence, desire, divorce, marriage, passion, polarity